Pruning hurts–but it is necessary
Loss is painful, we have all lost something—spouses, family members, homes. Pain and suffering is not the will of God–that loss is not the pruning–but letting go of those things, releasing that pain to God, that is the pruning. Yes, God allowed it, but not because He is cruel, and not because He wants to harm you. The Lord wants you to move on, into the abundant life that He has for you.
7 But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ.
8 Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,
9 And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith:
10 That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;
11 If by any means I might attain unto the resurrection of the dead.
12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.
13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
Paul is talking about his accomplishments before he got saved. He is saying that all his religious efforts were worthless, and his good deeds too—none of that could save him—because only Christ can save a person’s soul.