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Matthew 12: 7-8
“But f you had known (known in your heart–which is far more valuable, than head knowledge, in my opinion) What this means, I will have mercy, not sacrifice, you would not have condemned the guiltless.”
Happy joyful people are those who understand mercy–it has been extended to them, and they have understood and appropriated it, not just once, but on an ongoing basis. It has become part of them–mercy lives in their spirit and soul, so they are able to extend mercy to others. They don’t go around judging, gossiping, condemning other people. Understanding mercy makes a happy, joyful soul, and helps to solve a lot of problems that might other wise make a person miserable. Better by far to be Christ focused, instead of problem focused.
Sometimes people can become bitter and miserable because the mercy they extend has been misunderstood–the person they showed mercy to either takes advantage of them because they don’t understand mercy and perceives it as weakness, or the person is suspicious and goes on the defensive and launches a passive-aggressive attack.
That can make a person bitter, and turn them into one of those other two types, but it doesn’t have to be that way–it is a series of choices. If they are Christ centered, and continue to choose to stay that way, instead of being problem centered, it won’t happen–they won’t become bitter, suspicious and defensive. This doesn’t mean you will never get your feelings hurt, just don’t let it change your center, and your focus. If you don’t stay Christ centered, those problem circumstances WILL erode your faith and make you bitter, and cause you to turn to something other than Christ for answers.
Jesus’ words are simple, and yet full of wisdom. Simple, so that everyone could understand them. He never wasted words, and he never wasted any opportunity to teach. He was, and is, Master and Shepard. He did not come as a Scholar, though His was the greatest human mind in all of human history. He was the King of Kings, but he appeared as a carpenter’s Son, but in reality he was and is The Son of God. Jesus was a quiet mature person (Mt 12:20) but as a man, he was fully human, and had personal preferences like everyone else–he preferred certain of his disciples though He chose them all, and he was closest to John.
Is it wrong to ask the Lord that?
Every trial is designed to teach us something. There is something in each trial that the Lord wants us to see, both about ourselves, and about Him. There is often something He wants to fix in us–or something He wants to equip us with for the next area of service He is moving us into. He also uses trials to teach us some aspect of Him that we would not have known experientially if not for that particular trial.
So from that mindset, it is not wrong to ask the Lord what the purpose of the trial is, as long as we are asking with a teachable spirit. Look at the difference in the responses of Zechariah, the father of John the Baptist, and Mary, when the angel Gabriel appeared with an important message.
Remember, you are going THROUGH–not staying in that trial forever.
Recently I have been reading “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Steven Covey. My fiancé had been telling me how he read this book years ago, and it changed his life. This intrigued me, so I downloaded it on Kindle. It has also changed my outlook. I was a little skeptical at first, wondering if he would incorporate phycology, and try to change the way I look at the Lord. He didn’t. As I read, it became clear that Covey was a Christian, and his faith and knowledge of the bible were behind his principles, for the most part. The book has not changed my perspective on the Lord, but it has changed my perception of myself.
I have started to see that I have held a very negative perception of myself, but not in the way that psychology would have me think. I know I have a sin nature, and I’m not all that good, at heart. But that is beside the point. I am still a daughter of the king, and that knowledge, joined with the knowledge that apart from Christ, I’m just a vile sinner, led me to this–the truth of the knowledge that I am a daughter of The King, reveals how much He values me, and in His opinion, the only opinion that matters, I have worth, and I am a joint-heir with Christ, and all that is His, is mine. If Christ be for me (and He is) who can be against me? No one. People’s opinions cease to matter. Nevertheless, the knowledge that I am merely a vile sinner, apart from Christ, keeps me from the pride that might accompany the knowledge that I am a child of the King, and all that goes with that.
Reading Seven Habits made me realize one glaring fact–I have let people’s perception of me define me. The Holy Spirit said to me once, many years ago–“You are not who others say you are–you are who I say you are.” Old patterns take a long time to break at times, and I have been slow to learn this in my heart. When I read Seven Habits, it brought this back to my memory. I am who the Lord says I am, and I don’t need to let people’s opinions have power over me anymore. I realized that I have been letting other people have too much power over me. Also, I can rise above storms and evil circumstances, because I am a child of the King. And if you are a Christian, if you know Jesus in a personal way, than so can you, because you are a child of the King also.
Song of Solomon 9:8-10
We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts: what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?
9 If she be a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver: and if she be a door, we will inclose her with boards of cedar.
10 I am a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour.
The “older brothers” in these verses are not speaking well of the “little sister” the words are intended to be insulting, to convey the idea that she is immature and not much to look at (no breasts) and useless as neither a wall or a door. A wall keeps things out, and a door admits things. So they may be saying she doesn’t have the sense to know good from evil?
But the “little sister” rejects their opinions, and chooses to see herself as the bridegroom sees her. “I in His eyes as one that found favour.” And his opinion is the only one that matters.
Another thing that the book talks about was having a personal mission statement, that reflects your revealed purpose, that the Lord alone can reveal to you. Writing it down serves as a reminder of your purpose here on earth, and how the Lord wants to fulfill it. I will share mine in the next post. In the meantime, here is a song that I feel fits the mood of this post:
I’m going to write a series of blog posts dealing with what the bible has to say about relationships. I strongly believe that the bible is relevant to today’s problems, and no matter what relationship problems you are having, or any problems you are having, for that matter, no matter what you are dealing with, the answer is in the word of God. This series of posts came about after much prayer, and study of the word, concerning my own relationship problems
Good relationships don’t just happen
Properly placed faith in the Cross takes care of many things, but that still doesn’t mean that everything in your life will be automatic or that you will receive or be able to accomplish certain things overnight
We can’t change other people, but we can allow the Lord to change us.
The Lord always makes us better, but many people are afraid to let the Lord change them, afraid of what they will have to give up. Realize thought that the Lord only ever asks you to give something up, when He wants to give you something better. Now I want to look at some things that may cause relationship problems.
Satan will try to hinder you any way he can, and that includes bringing confusion, misunderstanding, chaos, miscommunication, which can lead to mistrust.
Again, properly placed faith does not mean that relationship problems automatically disappear. The devil will take any opening you give him, and while not all relationship problems are caused by demonic interference, some are, and in those cases we are to take authority over them in the name of Jesus.
Can Christians be oppressed by demons? Scriptural evidence says yes, though there is not a lot of scriptural evidence.
10One Sabbath Jesus was teaching in one of the synagogues, 11and a woman there had been disabled by a spirit for eighteen years. She was hunched over and could not stand up straight. 12When Jesus saw her, He called her over and said, “Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.”…
This passage is from Luke 13, I know that this is debatable, as I said, the bible doesn’t say much about it, but this passage seems to suggest that this woman was a believer, but still oppressed physically by Satan. To say no this is impossible, for a believer to be oppressed, and depressed, because of spiritual forces, is to deny reality. It has been my experience that Christians can be thus effected, and to deny this would be to deny that they are truly Christians, which is not the case. Neither does this in any way deny Christ’s Lordship in the life of that believer. He is still in control, and I don’t know why He would allow one of His children to be oppressed. What I can say is that they should seek the Lord as to the reason, and not psychiatry or drugs. I’m not discounting these things, sometimes there are physical causes of depression, chemical imbalances that require medication. I’m not saying that people who genuinely need medicine should stop taking them–they should continue to take medicines they truly need. But when it comes to depression, there is a spiritual aspect that psychiatry cannot treat. We are living in the last days, and as the bible says, there is an increase in demonic activity against the people of God. That may be one of the reasons for increased oppression.
The Name Of Jesus
The name of Jesus still has power to heal and set free. That power is still greater than any medication or any psychological method. Those things are new, so what makes anyone think they work better than the methods of the Creator of the Ages? While as I have said, these things have a place, they do not and cannot take the place of the Lordship of Jesus Christ.
The cross of Christ is greatly misunderstood. Here is what the cross is NOT:
- Not a magic talisman: victory of depression and oppression doesn’t come by just saying “Cross, cross, cross,” in every sermon. People need to understand what that means, and just because a preacher doesn’t say the exact words “the cross” in a sermon doesn’t mean they aren’t preaching Christ crucified. You also can’t get victory by visualizing the Crucifixion.
- Not a gimmick that you need to pay a preacher to teach you. The message of the cross is throughout the bible, and it is free.
The cross is simply the finished work of Christ on the Cross. It is the place He won the victory. Faith in the Cross simply means letting Christ fight your battles because He already won them on the Cross. It’s like trying to fly a plane yourself when you don’t know how, versus letting an experienced pilot fly the plane. So that is our most important relationship–the one we have with Christ. When we are in right relationship with Him, our other relationships will become what they should be.
“Give and it shall be given to you; good measure pressed down, shaken together, running over, shall men pour into your bosom.” Luke 6:38
The Lord gave me a revelation about this verse. It does not only refer to material and financial things, it also refers to love, among other things.
There is a great principle of God that applies to love—no matter how much you give, your supply is not depleted—and not only is your supply NOT depleted, it grows. Love, mercy, grace, longsuffering—all of these are the fruit of the Spirit, and they grow equally as we practice them. It is the Holy Spirit who causes them to grow, not us, and that is why they are called the fruit of The Spirit. If we want the fruit of the Spirit to grow in our lives, God will see to it that it does. The greatest of these is love, if we have the love of God in us, we will have mercy, grace, longsuffering, etc, in ever increasing measure.
Galatians 5:22-23King James Version (KJV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
1 Corinthians 13:13King James Version (KJV)
13 And now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
There is no wisdom in a fool, so it is only foolishness that comes out of his mind, and he is quick to speak, but the wise man listens, processes what he has heard, and then responds.
6 Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
Verse 6: Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
As I wrote in a previous post “How do I pray?” praise and worship should be a big part of our prayer time. We ought to be thankful always for all that the Lord had done for us. God doesn’t want us to worry, but He does want us to cry out to Him, when we have a problem, or a need. If you don’t get an answer right away, keep asking.
Verse 7: And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
The Lord promises us peace, and shows us how secure we are in Christ.
Verse 8: Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
This admonishes us to be careful about what we watch and listen to. This includes television shows and movies, but it also includes the people we hang out with—is their conversation scriptural, true, and beneficial? Or is it error, harmful, and destructive?
Verse 9: Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
What we have learned, received, heard and seen, from the writings of the Apostle Paul, is the message of the Cross. If you place our faith in that– the God of peace will be with you, He is your never-ending and inexhaustible source of peace.