Category Archives: Life

Due Diligence

Proverbs 6


This doesnn’t say you should never co-sign for somoen, but it is a caution saying that if you do, you will likely end up paying your friends debt.

Proverbs 6:6-15

I have heard it said that diligence and hard work can make up for lack of talent and lack of opportunities. There are many stories of talented people who did not make the most of their talents, or thought they could succeed on talent alone and were not diligent in doing the mundane tasks required to be successful. Here is an example.

My husband and I recently watched the movie “Founder” about Ray Kroc, the man who (supposedly) founded McDonalds. Actually, the original idea and the name came from two brothers, who built the original one, a hamburger stand in San Bernardino, California.

When Ray Kroc met the McDonald brothers, he was a travelling salesman, selling mixers out of his trunk. The McDonald brothers ordered eight mixers from him. He is excited by this, because he has been having a streak of rejections in trying to sell these mixers.

Ray drives to San Bernardino to meet the McDonald brothers in person. While he is there, he orders lunch and is pleasantly surprised at how fast the food arrives, and how good it is; especially compared to other drive in restaurants he ate at on the road, where the food took nearly an hour, and it was wrong, when it did arrive. After the brothers give Ray the tour, he is really impressed, and wants in on the operation. I won’t spoil the rest of the story for you, if you haven’t seen it, but here is what I took away from this story….

You begin to see Ray Kroc’s determination  to succeed on his own terms. At this point in the movie, he is a visionary who sees that McDonald’s has the potential to be hugely successful, throughout America, and he sets out to make it happen. Now he doesn’t have much cash flow up to this point, he is just a guy selling mixers out of his trunk. His diligence however, overcomes the lack of funds, and lack of opportunity, that’s the first obstacle.

Next obstacle is discouragement from the person closest to him–his wife. She sees that he has not been very successful with the mixer business, and she remembers his string of failed businesses before that. So discouraging voices around him and past failures, could have been the second and third hindrances, but he doesn’t allow them to stop him. Facts aren’t always truth, and the past does not always determine the future.

The next hindrance is that the people holding the purse strings are holding him and the franchise back from full potential, because of fear. So Ray has a choice here–is he going to stay fearful and cautious, or is he going to step out in boldness and accomplish what could be–will he step out of what’s comfortable, to begin something bigger and better?

That is the fourth and fifth obstacle–separating yourself from people who don’t share your vision, aligning yourself with those who do, and moving out of your comfort zone to accomplish greater things that benefit many people, not just you.



Mercy and the carpenter’s Son

Matthew 12: 7-8

“But f you had known (known in your heart–which is far more valuable, than head knowledge, in my opinion) What this means, I will have mercy, not sacrifice, you would not have condemned the guiltless.”

Happy joyful people are those who understand mercy–it has been extended to them, and they have understood and appropriated it, not just once, but on an ongoing basis. It has become part of them–mercy lives in their spirit and soul, so they are able to extend mercy to others. They don’t go around judging, gossiping, condemning other people. Understanding mercy makes a happy, joyful soul, and helps to solve a lot of problems that might other wise make a person miserable. Better by far to be Christ focused, instead of problem focused.

Sometimes people can become bitter and miserable because the mercy they extend has been misunderstood–the person they showed mercy to either takes advantage of them because they don’t  understand mercy and perceives it as weakness, or the person is suspicious and goes on the defensive and launches a passive-aggressive attack.

That can make a person bitter, and turn them into one of those other two types, but it doesn’t have to be that way–it is a series of choices. If they are Christ centered, and continue to choose to stay that way, instead of being problem centered, it won’t happen–they won’t become bitter, suspicious and defensive. This doesn’t mean you will never get your feelings hurt, just don’t let it change your center, and your focus. If you don’t stay Christ centered, those problem circumstances WILL erode your faith and make you bitter, and cause you to turn to something other than Christ for answers.

Jesus’ words are simple, and yet full of wisdom. Simple, so that everyone could understand them. He never wasted words, and he never wasted any opportunity to teach. He was, and is, Master and Shepard. He did not come as a Scholar, though His was the greatest human mind in all of human history. He was the King of Kings, but he appeared as a carpenter’s Son, but in reality he was and is The Son of God. Jesus was a quiet mature person (Mt 12:20) but as a man, he was fully human, and had personal preferences like everyone else–he preferred certain of his disciples though He chose them all, and he was closest to John.

Why am I going through this trial?

Is it wrong to ask the Lord that?

Every trial is designed to teach us something. There is something in each trial that the Lord wants us to see, both about ourselves, and about Him. There is often something He wants to fix in us–or something He wants to equip us with for the next area of service He is moving us into. He also uses trials to teach us some aspect of Him that we would not have known experientially if not for that particular trial.

So from that  mindset, it is not wrong to ask the Lord what the purpose of the trial is, as long as we are asking with a teachable spirit. Look at the difference in the responses of Zechariah, the father of John the Baptist, and Mary, when the angel Gabriel appeared with an important message.

Remember, you are going THROUGH–not staying in that trial forever.


Have you ever been betrayed?

Psalm 55:12-14

For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: But it was thou,  a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company.

This was written by David, about the betrayal of Ahithophel, one of his closest advisors, and his wife Bathsheba’s grandfather. This passage also describes Judas’ betrayal of Christ. Have you ever been betrayed like this? By someone close to you–a person you thought was a friend? I have. It is only when we are down and out that we truly know who our friends are. Job also found this out.

Throughout the book of Job, you can read about the “encouragement” of these high and mighty (in their opinion) so called friends. Even though Job found out the true nature of these three men who he thought were his friends, God never let him down; God was shown to be consistent in His nature toward Job–He showed Job just as much grace when he was destitute as when he had been wealthy. God’s nature does not change–one of the many lessons in the book of Job

Now most of us–had this happened to us–would have wanted to see those friends dealt with severely by God. They weren’t–but they were chastised and told to offer sacrifice. Do you know what that tells me? These men were saved–they knew the Lord in a very real way, but their hearts were far from him, and so they condemned a man whom God had justified.

Hebrews 12:6
For the Lord disciplines the one He loves and punishes every son He receives.

Furthermore, God required Job to forgive these friends, and not only to forgive them, but to intercede for them for forgiveness for the very sin they had committed against him.

And Job did.

I believe that Job truly forgave them because God would not have accepted the sacrifice he offered for them, other wise.


Thank You For Serving

Memorial Day is tomorrow, and I just want to say thank you to all my readers who have served in the armed forces. I would like to hear your stories in the comments.

My father served in the army, all four of my uncles served in the navy, and my husband’s father was a marine (Once a marine, always a marine). One of my earliest memories was from when we were living on the army base in New York; I remember my sister and I playing tag under and around the tables in the mess hall.

When I was 20 years old, I seriously considered enlisting in the army, but my daughter was only a year and 1/2 old, and I didn’t want to be away from her for that long while I went to boot camp. I ended up losing her anyway, her dad took her out of state, years later, and I didn’t see her again for several years. I have often wondered how my life may have been different if I had enlisted.



Day to Day Dedication

Mood music:

 “Centuries” by Fall Out Boy

“Cult of Personality” Living Color

Update: happy and blessed in the Lord. Settling in here in Kentucky. We left Baton Rouge about three weeks ago. I’ve really seen the Lord provide amazing ways like to be able to go into but I want to protect other people’s privacy so I can’t go into detail. But we are very blessed the Lord has met all of our needs according to His riches in glory. I have started posting brief audio clips to the Wilderness Well page on Facebook. My husband and I have been reading “My Utmost For His Highest” by Oswald Chambers, and it has inspired me to record the audio clips.

I’m learning a lot from the devotionals, such as being thankful in all circumstances. I’m also trying to be consistent, and finish things I start, like the series of Proverbs posts, on this blog….And….Drum roll….The ebook I am writing, called The Well in the Wilderness. More details about that to follow.


Thank you for reading. Please pray for me that I will be able to stay consistent with the important things, and not always be distracted by the seemingly urgent.


Here is what is currently inspiring me:

My Utmost For His Highest

Seven Habits of Highly Successful People

“Freedom in the Home” by Frances Allen


Have you read any of these? I would enjoy reading your thoughts in the comments.

Wisdom from Proverbs Pt. 1

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Proverbs 1:1-7

1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;

2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;

3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;

4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.

5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

6 To understand a proverb, and the interpretation; the words of the wise, and their dark sayings.

7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

The book of Proverbs contains wisdom for every area of life; how to live for the Lord, how a Christian should conduct themselves in business. In my virtual assistant business, I have had to learn to apply biblical principles. For a long time I compartmentalized my life, keeping business and faith separate. Eventually the Lord showed me this was a mistake. I don’t meant that I preached while on the job, I didn’t do that, but I did start treating it like a ministry. Just like Jesus’ parable of the servants with the talents, I wanted to use the gifts I had been given for the glory of God. I started praying for my clients; it changed the way I saw them, not as clients who bring revenue into my business, but as souls who needed a Savior. I started to see the people I interacted with on social media as eternal souls in need of a Savior. When you realize that every person you will ever meet is an eternal soul who will spend eternity in either heaven or hell, it changes the way you interact with them. I started praying for everyone I talked to online.

I remember one young lady who posts a lot on Twitter-she has a huge following she is a musician, and she seems to be happy, and have it all together. But most of her posts are about partying and superficial stuff. I remember that life, before I came back to the Lord at the age of 20. I remember that there was a time when I thought that life was the greatest, that it was so much fun, and that it always would be. But there came a time when it wasn’t fun anymore. When I realized that all the hopes and dreams I had once had were gone.

There was this one night, my boyfriend and our friends had been up late one Friday night, partying and drinking. That night was the drunkest I had ever gotten before, and all I could do was just lay in bed, watching the room spin, wishing it would stop, and trying not to throw up. I thought–“This isn’t fun anymore–why did I ever think it was?” I was a high school dropout with no future. Soon after this, I became a single mother with nothing to offer my daughter. Yup, definitely not the good life.

The only true joy that there is in life is in knowing the Lord, in having a right relationship with Him. People can fake it outwardly, but there will come a time when they will realize the emptiness and meaninglessness of a life lived apart from God. And then when this life is over, hell awaits. People may mock the idea of hell, and deny it’s real, but when did lack of belief in a certain group of people ever change the reality of something?

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